Desperately Seeking A Baby Group

In just over a year, I have moved to a new part of New Jersey, lost my job and had a baby.  I think the hardest part of it all was moving to a new part of the state.  The problem – I don’t know anyone around here.  My friends are all in Manhattan with full-time jobs and it’s even harder to visit them now that L is here.

I had thought it would be easier to meet some new friends with a baby.  I had thoughts in my head that I would easily meet a cool group of ladies to hang out with who had equally cool babies.  Realistic, right?  Ha!  My sister found herself in the same predicament years ago when she moved to another state and had a baby the next year.  She ended up meeting other ladies but it did take a while to happen.

I spent much of yesterday stalking the internet for music, gym or swim classes.  L already LOVES the bath/water so swim might be a good one to take.    The problem I am encountering is that L can’t go to anything till he is 4 months old and swim doesn’t start till 6 months.  The one good thing is that babies can start going to our gym pool at 3 months.

I guess until L turns 3-4 months old, we are on our own.  I am not putting it past myself to chat up some ladies with newborns at the shops or the mall.  Hope someone out there wants to hang out with us. :)

How did you get into a baby group?  Any suggestions on how to find one?

Trying To Live In The Moment

L and I like to go for hour-long daily walks and sometimes even twice a day.

Well, I walked and he slept. :)

These past 3.5 weeks have gone by in a flash and when I look at photos of L today versus the day we got home from the hospital, I realize that he is getting big so fast.  During 3am and 5am feedings, I find myself wishing that he were older and sleeping through the night.  But, looking at his photos, I find myself wanting time to slow down.  Instead of wanting time to slow down or speed up, I am trying to live in the moment.

I am trying to enjoy L’s newborn stage and not wish him to be older.

I am enjoying a sunny walk with my son instead of wishing I was running.

I find that I don’t live in the moment while running either.  I usually want the miles to pass quickly instead of enjoying each step of the race or I hope to rewind time, starting the race with a different strategy.   My 1st race post-baby is going to be the Cranford Firecracker 4 miler on July 4th and I am going to live in the moment that race.  I’m vowing to ditch the Garmin and iPod so I can concentrate on how I feel at that moment. Here’s to hoping that I won’t feel like death the whole race.

How do you like to live in the moment?

A Rainy Afternoon

The sun didn’t show its face in New Jersey today or yesterday.  We have been confined to the house on this rainy afternoon.  So what do we do?

Well, we napped and Lucas napped some more.

And we celebrated National Chocolate Chip Cookie Day!

The husband commented that he didn’t have a dessert so I offered to make him some chocolate chip cookies.  I always use the Toll House recipe and I quickly whipped up a batch.

Since I’m not pregnant anymore, I was able to sample the dough.

Oh man, how I have missed that!

A quick 11 minutes or so in the oven, the cookies were ready to eat with some milk.

So good and the perfect cure for a rainy afternoon.

What’s your favorite way to spend a rainy day?

Postpartum Update: Week 3

Time continues to fly by and L is already over 3 weeks old.  This week was the 1st time that the pediatrician ok’d L going out in public so on Friday we took an outing to CVS and the bagel shop.   Since one of my nephews is sick and contagious only to infants less than 6 months old, L and I celebrated Mother’s Day with my mom a day early.  We had a good time hanging out on the screened-in porch and shopping in town.  L is already a typical guy and started screaming as soon as we entered the Gap.  Ugh, this could be difficult!

How Am I Feeling? – So much better this week.  I feel like I’ve really turned the corner on my recovery and my walks have gotten longer this week.  I woke up this morning and decided that if I feel good this coming weekend, I am going to take a Bar Method class on Sunday.  I’m still not able to run but that can happen in only 2.5 weeks.  So exciting!

How Have I Changed? – I didn’t have any weight loss this week but I can chalk that up to birthday and Mother’s Day eats.  I do feel like my stomach is smaller and I’m even wearing some non-maternity clothes.   I went shopping on Saturday and was so tempted by all the cute summer clothes.  I tried on a couple and had to keep reminding myself that I am only 3 weeks postpartum and I have to give myself a break.  I know that the weight will come off faster once I’m able to workout again.

Breastfeeding – Still supplementing and I think that isn’t going to change.  L doesn’t have any nipple confusion and chooses to breastfeed in the afternoons/evenings and when he is upset.  I did have my 1st breastfeeding in a public place last weekend when L got upset at the Gap.  We headed to the dressing rooms and he fed like a champ.

Workouts: Still daily walks and sometimes even two a day walks.  I have been going on a longer route and getting in 2-3 miles at a time.  This week my plan is to do 3 mile walks at least once a day.

Eats: Birthday and Mother’s Day kind of ruined this week on eats.  I had three cakes, meals out and pizza night.  I’m not upset by it because it was a celebration week in our household.  Husband did get me my 1st sushi dinner the other night and I have to admit that I didn’t like it as much as I did pre-baby.  Has that happened to anyone else?

 Life in the Run Bake Race Household: Husband got sick this week and didn’t want to get L sick so I didn’t have any parenting relief.  Husband finally felt better on Friday night and I was able to get 5 hours of straight sleep.  I think that I haven’t slept that long continuously since 2011!  It was magical.

Can’t believe it’s only 6 more days till L is officially one month old.

 

 

 

Like My Mother

It’s a double celebration at the Run Bake Race household this week.  On Wednesday I celebrated my 35th birthday and today is my 1st Mother’s Day.

When my sisters and I were growing up, we always used to tease one another if we did something like our mom would.  Whether it would be a phrase she would say, a face she would make or an action she would take, we would always call one another out on it.    Now that I’m a mother (of just 3 weeks), I find myself doing things my mom did and I’m happy about it.

I find myself picking things of Lucas’s face and making sure his clothes are ironed.

I find myself singing the same song at bedtime my mom sang to us.

I find myself asking my mom for advice on everything baby.

I find myself appreciating my mom even more now that I’m a mom.

Happy Mother’s Day!

 

35th on the 9th

Yesterday I turned 35!

Wow, that number seems much bigger when I see it in print.

And I had the newest and best buddy to celebrate with.

Lucas loved the candles and my family singing me Happy Birthday.

When I blew out my candles on my 34th birthday cake, all I wished for was a baby.   My wish came true and my 34th year was one of the best ever!

I made another wish when I blew out my candles this year and we’ll just have to wait till my 36th birthday to see if it came true.

Have any of your birthday wishes ever come true?

Postpartum Update: Week 2

Week 2 of L’s life went by in a flash for us.  Husband had to go back to work this week, so L and I were on our own.  I must admit that we had two days where I didn’t get out of my PJs but we also had a day or two where we went on hour-long walks.   Per the doctor’s instructions, L and I still aren’t allowed to visit public places but this is our last week of it!  I drove to Babies R Us the other day and felt like I hadn’t been out in ages.  Guess the home confinement is getting to me.

How Am I Feeling? – The swelling has gone down even more and so has my stomach.  I feel much better this week than last week and I feel like my stitches are finally healing.  The husband and I went for a longer walk (2 miles) on Friday and by the end of it I was in pain.  I think I did a little too much a little too quickly.  I felt much better after a rest and some Motrin.

How Have I Changed? – I lost another 2 lbs this week for a total weight loss of 24 lbs.  I still have 23 lbs till I reach my happy weight and I’m sure it will start to come off faster once I can exercise again.   I tried on a couple of my summer dresses from last year and all the empire waist ones fit! I must admit, I was totally scared to try them on but it ended up not being so bad.  By the time it’s hot enough to wear them, I’m sure they will all zip up.

Breastfeeding –  I would love to report that L is totally off formula and we are working well as a team, but that would be a lie.  I have been to the lactation consultant a couple of times and it seems that I have a low supply problem.  We continue to supplement with formula and I also pump to try to increase my supply.  I know the pumping is going to get old really quickly so I’m trying to be realistic about my breastfeeding future (past 2-3 months).

Workouts:  Daily walks with L are the only workouts going on right now.  I can’t wait to get back to running and almost feel like I could bust out in a run for a block or two. I’m going to follow by Dr’s instructions and wait till 6 weeks postpartum.

Eats:  Trying to fit in any meal while home alone is tough.  It seems that each time my breakfast or lunch is ready, L starts crying.  I’ve gotten used to cold food and stuffing my face very quickly.  I am basically eating whatever leftovers are in the fridge.  Husband cooks delicious dinners on the weekends but he gets home too late from work during the week to cook.   My pregnancy cravings are a thing of the past and fish is back in my life.  I’ve actually missed it!  I also had my first tiny glass of wine last night and it tasted wonderful.

Life in the Run Bake Race Household:  We don’t have a defined schedule yet and that’s ok.  L seems to want to eat every 2-3 hours day and night so we are up at 1am and 4am.  His longest nap is in the afternoon where I have to wake him up to eat after 3 hours.  The husband and I are getting much better at reading his signals and usually know why his is crying.  For the first week we didn’t get why he was screaming at night.  L loved being swaddled in the hospital but has since changed his mind.  We kept swaddling him for a couple of days and he would bust out of it almost immediately.  The husband and I have since switched to sleep sacks and L is much happier.  My little guy likes to be able to move his hands around and since he doesn’t scratch himself, I’m ok with it.

From what I’ve read, week 3 seems to be a cranky one.  Hope that doesn’t happen here…

How did week 3 go in your house?  Was it a cranky one?

 

 

Baby Likes and Dislikes

L is only a little over 2 weeks old and he already has distinct likes and dislikes.  When I was getting ready for the baby to come, I had bought all the essentials.  Swing, bouncy seat, Boppy etc…I didn’t know what he would like or dislike but I wanted to be prepared.   In just two weeks, I have already packed away some baby stuff and bought more of others.

L’s Likes:

Sleep Sacks – I bought two of these before he was born and since had to buy three more.  L likes to have his arms free so he hates swaddles.

Playmat – He loves this thing! My sister told me to be prepared for him to hate it but just the opposite happened.  L can hang out on the mat for almost 30 minutes…a lifetime in baby time.

Crib Musical Aquarium – I call this thing the baby movie and L loves it!  We do tummy time in the crib so he can stare at it and he lasts much longer than tummy time on a mat.  He loves the nature and classical music but doesn’t really love the lullabies.

L also likes stroller rides, Ergo rides, Boppy Lounger and bath time.

L’s Dislikes:

The Swing – He hates the swing!  My mom didn’t believe me and put him it in to see for herself.  Screaming ensued moments later and lasts well after you take him out of the swing.  He likes to remind you that the swing isn’t for him by screaming for about 5 more minutes.  The swing is headed to the basement. :(

Besides the swing, L just hates swaddles.

What did your baby dislike or like? I’ll be back tomorrow with my Postpartum Update: Week 2, I just need the husband to take photos :) .

Hospital Photos

L and I are still on home confinement.  The pediatrician recommended 3-4 weeks at home or at a family member’s home with only close relatives visiting.  Since we don’t want him to get sick, we are abiding by his rules.  So, that means I haven’t been anywhere except the doctor’s office since April 19th!  I thought I would be going stir crazy with cabin fever but I’m not at all.  Get back to me in 10 days and I might be singing a different tune. :)

Without much action going on in our house, the daily mail delivery is quite exciting.  L and I wave to the mail man from the window and then I quickly scoop it up to see if we have received any letters or magazines.  Yesterday I was excited to see the Fedex truck stop in front of our house.  Neither the husband nor I had ordered anything so what could it be?  Well, it was L’s hospital photos.  Both grandmas wanted the traditional baby hospital photo so we had the photographer come to our room on the morning we were discharged.  In the new digital age, the traditional one photo has turned into a photo shoot!  Husband got  suckered into buying the primo photo package (he must have had new dad brain fogginess) and the photos came yesterday.

My favorite

L definitely looks like my husband and everyone calls him his “little” when they meet L.  My mom brought my baby hospital photo to my room after L was born.  We were trying to see if he looked like me, but he doesn’t. :(

Me at birth – nearly 35 years ago…ughh old

Did you get hospital photos taken or plan on having them taken?

My New Obsessions

Now that Little Fella is here and I am on my way to losing those pregnancy pounds, I have found a new online obsession creeping up.  I am obsessed with trolling the internet for cute summer clothes!  It’s felt like forever since I’ve been able to buy clothes from anywhere besides Destination Maternity, so I am psyched to go shopping.  Little Fella and I still have 2 more weeks of home confinement but then it’s on…we are hitting the mall.

What do I want?  Basically anything and EVERYTHING but I will settle for these 5 items

1. This cute nautical dress from JCrew.

Maritime anchor dress

2.  Another cute Nanette Lepore dress from Nordstrom (I’m going to have to stalk the sample sale for this one).

Nanette Lepore 'Class Flirt' Crochet Sleeveless Sweater Dress

3. The Run Pacer Skirt from Lululemon – I am so ready for some summer running!

Run: Pace Setter Skirt*R

4.  Some cute Sperry-Topsider Boat Shoes – I think I had these in the 80′s :)

Sperry Top-Sider® 'Bahama' Sequined Boat Shoe

5.  And I always get myself a new Lilly Pulitzer dress for the summer.  Think this one might be it!

Now I just need to put down the mini Hershey bars and start walking :) .

Do you always buy a new dress or outfit for the summer?  What are your latest obsessions?